Have you ever been told not to expect a return for everything you do?
They were probably wrong not telling you that you deserve it. You have to make sure the return over-weighs what you've paid off for it.
Yes! the benefit has to oppress the cost.
Must be wondering I'm being selfishly mean here? Trust me, I'm not!
I'm not suggesting to expect a materialistic reward every time but you have to get at least 'something' in return. That 'something' could be satisfaction, lesson, value, impact, reinforcement, experience, someone's smile, acknowledgement or appraisal while cost isn't always monetary or direct everytime. It is also the time you're investing, the calories you're burning, fatigue being bore, stress you're resisting, effort being put in etc. If you're not being rewarded by any of the benefits then you're probably doing the wrong thing.
Let's put all the variables in the equation and think of any dilemma. Try using this theory. Costs on the one side with benefits on the other. Reward side has to be heavier.
No matter whether you're being indecisive about breaking up with someone or investing your time in something, my theory will help you take the best rational decision. Emotional biases lead to wrong decisions which is a hard pill to swallow. Hence, calculate the best outcomes for yourself using my theory for an effective and sensible decision. You're not doing it for free. If it has a cost, get yourself rewarded with a return (doesn't have to be monetary every time). Otherwise, move on to the next best option and evaluate again.
Your questions and negative comments will be appreciated more than positive feedback. This theory will definitely help you at some stage if you are able to understand it.
